Embracing Empathy Will Make You Better at Home/Work/Everywhere!
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Can you feel it when there’s tension or frustration filling a room of your coworkers? Does hearing about a stranger’s brush with inequity rile up your anger? When your friend cries in front of you, do you tear up too? These are all examples of empathy, and no, not everyone can relate strongly to these examples, but to be a more successful person, growing your empathy reaction is important.
6Seconds.org will tell you that empathy means experiencing someone else’s feelings, while sympathy means understanding someone else’s feelings. It’s about tapping into your emotions rather than your brain. There’s a long distance between the two, but both have solid places in our society.
For a quick, and funny illustrated example, watch this Brené Brown video where she describes how using empathy helps create connections, while sympathy doesn’t.
How Empathetic Are You?
Empathy is a widely studied trait! According to GreaterGood.Berkeley.edu, research suggests that empathetic people lean toward being more generous, concerned about others and have happier relationships. They also tend to be better leaders and communicators. You can take the GreaterGood quiz (less than 30 questions) to see where you land on their empathy scale. This will give you a good read into where you can improve.
Not only does being empathetic help make you a better friend, it’s important to flex this skill at work too. TheBalanceCareers.com states a 2020 State of Workplace Empathy Study by Businessolver shows workplace empathy has stalled. The percentage of people (68%) who felt their organization was empathetic is the lowest in four years. 76% of respondents said an empathetic workplace inspires more employee motivation and 82% of CEOs say it has a positive impact on performance and productivity!
Becoming More Empathetic
The good news is you CAN LEARN to improve your empathy! (Really anyone can, it’s just naturally harder for some, especially if you have a medically diagnosed personality disorder.) This is great news since we know being more empathetic can lead to better relationships at home and at work.
There are many articles out there about habits you can incorporate to boost your empathy quotient. Be sure to visit some of our past blogs on EQ, Broadminded Thinking and Self-Awareness for similar tips for improvement.
Among the most commonly suggested ways to improve your empathy:
- Be an active listener & sharer
- Read fiction – it helps you step into someone else’s shoes
- Experience new things like travel, food and activities
- Be open to giving and receiving feedback
- Smile and use people’s names in conversation
- Learn about a different viewpoint and ask the why behind it
- Talk to strangers in safe environments
- Question your assumptions and judgements of others
As another GreaterGood.Berkeley.edu article suggests, we learned a lot in the 20th century about introspection. This century might well be best spent looking at how we connect with others to grow an even greater knowledge of the human experience.
One thing is for sure, people will remember how you make them feel and being more empathetic is a key way to make them feel heard, supported and uplifted!
Going for Gold; How Regular Recognition at your Company Makes Everyone a Winner
The 2020 Summer Olympics (held in 2021) just wrapped up and I’m sure you can still see the gleaming faces of medal winners on the podium. That’s the ultimate recognition; winning a gold medal in a sport you’ve trained in and persevered through! Obviously, for most of us, that’s not a realistic attainment, but even a gold star can turn someone’s day around for the better. That’s the brilliance behind recognition. It doesn’t have to be an all-or-nothing gesture. There are many degrees between a pat on the back and promotion to Vice President of Awesomeness (if that’s not a title, it should be)!
Motivation Excellence offers a wide variety of ways to recognize and reward important people in your business structure from employees to valued channel partners. In this blog, we’ll outline why having a recognition strategy in place is so important. Visit our website or reach out to ME@MotivationExcellence.com to learn more.
It’s About Trust, Motivation and Connection
Would it surprise you to hear that employees who receive recognition from their superiors actually trust their boss more? In this linked Forbes article, 90 percent of employees surveyed indicated higher levels of trust with the “higher-ups” if they had been commended for something in the past month.
The Society for Human Resources Management (SHRM) reported that when employees feel their work leadership appreciates and recognizes their efforts 93 percent say they feel like they fit in at their organization and 91 percent say it motivates them to work harder for their boss and their colleagues.
We know that the amount of telecommuting rose 115 percent between 2005 and 2015. Given the pandemic of 2020, work-from-home situations have risen even more dramatically across the country. Implementing a social network for recognition with your off-site staff is critical to keeping them connected and engaged. Northstar Meetings Group released 20 ways to show appreciation to a spread-out workforce during and after the pandemic. Several of them call out the importance of taking time regularly to recognize employees’ successes and sharing positive stories through a social recognition network.
It’s About the Why Behind the Recognition
For the person being recognized, it’s about feeling respected for their skills, included in the company culture, and acknowledged for their work. For the company offering the recognition, it’s about promoting a positive culture, highlighting the core values, and building lasting relationships with the people who make a difference to the bottom line AND the overall atmosphere of the company.
Recognition can have both soft and hard costs, and both can give a super boost to retention rates, productivity, and workplace happiness. You might be surprised to hear that the vocalization of appreciation for good work can mean more than a monetary supplement.
Here are some reasons why to show recognition to someone important to your organization:
- Birthdays
- Revenue-based accomplishments
- Training achievements
- Demonstrating company values
- Going above and beyond expectations
- Increasing new client contacts
- Kudos from customers
- Meeting or beating established goals
- Work anniversaries
It’s About How Recognition Happens
Knowing who you are recognizing, is as important as how you are showing them appreciation. A combination of verbalizing your kudos (either in writing, or in person, or both Epic Work Epic Life gives some great through-starters to authentically show appreciation for people’s accomplishments), and tying a reward to the recognition is a great way to make sure your intent comes through loud and clear. A reward does not have to have a cash value either. Depending on who the audience is, tailor the reward to fit the job level, demographic, and scope of accomplishment.
Here are some ways to recognize someone:
- Congratulate them on the internal company social site
- Give a day off
- Award accomplishments with pre-determined reward packages
- Reward top performers with a group travel experience or a travel getaway package
- Offer an award point platform to earn and redeem points as desired
- Increase flex working options
- Cater in a lunch for the team
- Plan an off-site experience
- Support a favorite charity
- Create incentive programs
- Show appreciation through saying “thank you,” or “good job!”
- Surprise stellar performance with a gift card of their choice
Hopefully, you now have a great understanding of why recognition is important and how you can administer it. Of course, Motivation Excellence is here to help you get started by offering suggestions to implement a Q4 spurt program to help you achieve your goals! You may not earn an Olympic gold medal, but your company will see the benefits to productivity, retention, morale, and trust in leadership! That could be even better!
From Mystery Destinations to Alternative Awards: Options to Keep Your Incentive Program Alive & Well
We’ve been down this path before. Surges in COVID cases cause some people to be hesitant to travel now, or even plan travel a few months ahead. Companies are faced with deciding when employees will be back in offices AND when people will be traveling again for business. Perhaps further down on the list is deciding when to revive your highly motivating group travel incentives. According to the Incentive Research Foundation, 80% of U.S. employees surveyed found group travel to be highly motivating, so don’t let your revival fall too far down that list!
Motivation Excellence has good news for business leaders out there wanting to get their reward and recognition programs back on track, yes, even with group travel!
In this white paper, we’ll give an overview of how and why “Mystery Destinations” work. We’ll also give other options for rewarding experiences outside of group travel, if you’re still not ready to commit to that quite yet. As you begin to shore up budgets and plans for 2022, do not overlook this critical piece to increased productivity and improved company culture!
“Mystery Destinations”
This is a tried and true concept we’ve used many times during the history of our company. The benefits to you greatly outweigh the risks, and during this particularly fluctuating period, it can be a great fit for safety-minded business leaders who still want to use a group travel incentive.
Instead of contractually committing to a property and destination more than a year out, our Mystery Destination solution allows you to book much closer to travel. This significantly lowers the risk of having to cancel. After talking with you about budget, time of year and location preference, length of stay and probable number of travelers, we start monitoring several good-fit destinations and watch for hotel room booking “holes.” Knowing you want good weather and outdoor activities in June, we could be watching Denver, Orlando, Austin, Texas and Cancun all at once. In the meantime, we start a creative engagement campaign with participants to get them to start guessing “where in the world” they’ll end up if they win.
Benefits Include:
- Securing great purchase value by filling unused room blocks
- Less worrying about attrition and cancellation clauses
- No hotel/DMC deposits needed until closer to actual travel
- Monitoring of destination “issues” allows you to book at the safest choice 4-6 weeks before travel
- Engaging participants is very fun, clues are generic and the reveal can be very creative
Risks Include:
- Losing out on first choice of property/destination
- Activities may be harder to schedule the longer you wait to book
Overall, our “Mystery Destination” solution can save your hopes (and maybe even some cost) of a group travel program in 2022 and beyond, as long as you can be flexible. You can watch a short webinar on this topic, featuring one of our hotel suppliers, on the Newsroom tab at MotivationExcellence.com.
“Alternative Rewards”
If you are not ready to host a group travel experience just yet, you still need to reward the people in your company that make a difference. There are nearly unlimited possibilities when it comes to providing alternative rewards to group travel.
Our biggest piece of advice on this is to make it personal. Giving your employees the ability to create a reward meant only for them is undeniably motivating and memorable. An emotional connection between the reward and the company that provided it is rekindled each time the employee sees it or remembers the experience. Motivation Excellence has several ways to achieve this type of connection.
- “Concierge Shoppers” are available to help select participants who have earned rewards to redeem them in a way most befitting their desires. It could be a down payment on a vacation home, or custom-made jewelry, or even home improvement projects. We literally helped purchase a cow at auction for a participant once – give us your dreams and we’re ready to help make them come true!
- “Your Day, Your Way” is an option where earners can design a local getaway using their rewards and our Personal Shoppers. We’ve partnered with dozens of hotels across the U.S. and Canada to help craft unique packages that can include activities like a chef’s table, whiskey tasting or spa treatments. It’s perfect for the winner who wants to share their award with a small group of friends, creating lasting memories for years to come.
- “MAXRewardsYourWay” is the perfect way to reward top performers through aspirational lifestyle upgrade packages. We can create a variety of packages to fit your budget and because each is filled with name-brand items coveted by many, this option is highly promotable. Think kitchen appliances and gadgets, fitness room improvements, the latest trending entertainment devices, individual travel packages and more! Each package can also be customizable if the winner already has one or more of the items included.
We also have a wide selection of merchandise, gift cards, travel and event tickets and experiential activities in our online award offerings. Through COVID-19 we’ve had to transition several travel programs to online award platforms. We found earners were thrilled with the opportunity.
“I always wanted this guitar, but could never justify the purchase before this award program!”
“What an amazing once-in-a-lifetime experience my wife and I will have when we get to travel the Danube one day.”
“I had new windows and gutters installed in my home and am thrilled that I (and my husband) will never have to clean a gutter again!”
“I would never spend this kind of money on myself normally. This was the perfect opportunity for me to get (luxury accessories).”
“This would be an amazing program to introduce annually. Making it this personal was meaningful.”
One client, with more than 120 winners, was so pleased with how this turned out in 2020 in lieu of their spring travel to Hawaii, they opted to do it again instead of traveling to Lisbon in the spring of 2021. The results were phenomenal. 100% of their winners redeemed their allotted award. This is how it broke down in 2020:
- 70% utilized our concierge shoppers to create totally unique reward experiences
- 15% booked future travel using certificates or our online booking tool
- 15% redeemed their points in our online offerings for merchandise, special events or experiences
With all of our reward programs, engagement remains strong. There is an almost even split between redemptions for merchandise, individual travel and event tickets versus gift cards with the former taking a slight edge. Throughout the pandemic, the most popular redemptions include new electronics and individual travel packages.
We recently dedicated a short webinar to the importance of finding the right rewards to enhance your incentive program. You can watch it on our Newsroom tab at www.MotivationExcellence.com.
Hopefully, you see now how you can still keep your group travel dreams alive despite our current situation OR easily decide to shift to alternative awards that are personal, meaningful and memorable.
Rules for Successful Programs (Incentive, Loyalty, Rewards)
As you embark on launching a loyalty or incentive program, we know one of the most important factors to its success is the rules structure. Some of our clients want to write the rules themselves, while others look to us for expertise. In either scenario, we work together to create meaningful parameters that sets up success for you and your participants.
We recently recorded a less than 15-minute webinar looking at what goes into writing program rules and why they matter. Be sure to check it out in our newsroom at MotivationExcellence.com. Bob Graham, VP, Client & Technology Solutions and Rhonda Brewer, VP, Sales join me to discuss the vital ingredients to creating meaningful program guidelines.
The process always starts with in-depth conversations with you. There isn’t a set roadmap to follow, but rather a journey of discovery that could take some time. We look at the market, your competition, performance goals, past issues and future possibilities to name just a few avenues we explore.
There are key things to look at in a few broad categories that are universal. Below we list those and give you a real-life situation to illustrate them better.
Goals:
We need to pinpoint what you want or need to get out of the program. Is it increased mindshare, more revenue or stronger channel relationships? Are you hoping to reward loyalty, improve employee tenure or recognize achievements? It could be any of these, multiple options or something entirely different. Without clear goals, the water gets murky from the onset.
Client X is in the building supply industry and wants to launch a new product line within their distribution channel. There are already two competitors with similar products in the channel. The primary goal is to capture market share so that at least 2/3 of the channel buys Client X’s new product within one year. The secondary goal is to reward distributors for making the purchasing switch. These two goals give us plenty to work on within our rules structure. We know we need to identify the decision makers in the channel and find the best motivator to woo them to choose our client’s new products over the competitors’ options. These solid goals allow us to create rules that will have natural measurements for success.
Participants:
Here we need to know your target audience. It could be employees, contacts in the distributor channel, customers or sales members. Knowing the audience helps us determine the best way to motivate the desired behavior change. The audience can vary from essential workers to top performing employees or channel partners. The rewards can equally vary from a 5-star group travel experience to gift card options to trending merchandise and lifestyle upgrade packages to individual travel and Concierge Shopping experiences. We have a 22-minute webinar on award options and whom they’re best suited to in our newsroom as well. Matching the participants to the right rewards increases engagement and the success rate of a program!
Client Y is a large medical testing company that wants to reward two different employee groups. First, they want to make sure they’re rewarding their top performers in the sales department. Second, they also want to make sure their entry-level couriers are encouraged to report possible revenue-changing activity out on their routes. With very clear-cut participant groups we know the motivation for each will likely be different, as well as the budget allocated to them. With two vastly different demographics, the rewards must be commiserate and aspirational for both. The sales team will have a longer earning cycle, but the couriers business intel can be rewarded more immediately. These groups will have two separate rules from which to play. The reward for the top performers in the sales department is a 5-star, group travel experience for at least 5 nights. This experience is filled with once-in-a-lifetime activities, networking with fellow winners and access to the top executives in the company. The reward for the couriers is a points-based program where they can redeem for a wide variety of trending merchandise, event tickets and individual travel options. Couriers can save up points for something truly memorable, or spend them on smaller treats as they see fit.
Hurdles:
You know your goals and your audience, but what obstacles will hinder their connection? Recognizing internal and external hurdles is important to designing a program structure. Sometimes it’s not having access to customer information like who the decision maker is. Industries with a lot of turnover in the distribution chain have a hard time keeping external data updated. A company trying to increase longevity of its own staff knows that turnover can be a hefty obstacle internally as well. Budget constraints are also important to recognize up front, as that affects how you connect with your audience and the types of rewards you want to offer.
Client Z is in the electrical supply industry. They have hundreds of thousands of customers but their internal tracking system is antiquated and decentralized. They want to identify customers who are large enough to assign a salesperson to them to help grow the account. They don’t have the budget to overhaul their tracking system. These are two huge hurdles! Offering a points-based reward program for internal sales representatives might be a cost-effective and motivating solution to start centralizing data. In addition, adding an element of competition among branches could spur more activity. Developing a far-reaching engagement campaign to capture basic customer information is another tactic to start building business intelligence. Knowing this is going to be a long journey is important as well.
Measurements for Success:
Finally, we need to understand how you define success. Does it have to hit a certain ROI or percentage of overall sales? For employee retention, what’s the golden length of time an individual stays that makes the program worthwhile? Without metrics – soft or hard – the success of a program isn’t tangible. If you can’t measure the outcome it’s hard to make meaningful adjustments to the program rules. Metrics can be very bottom-line type measurements tied to sales numbers, new customers or percent of market share. They can also be tied to engagement ideals like website visits and read email percentages. You can also measure an emotional connection. Has participating in this program made someone happier, feel better about their job or motivated them to improve? We have a whole blog with insight from Bob Graham on how important metrics are for measurement.
Client Q is part of the fencing industry and wanted to build stronger relationships with its customers, as well as, increase revenue across the board. New owners, acquisitions and mergers in recent years led to some organizational adjustments and lack of consistent customer interactions. The solution included a preferred buyer incentive program where customers earned a travel experience that included an on-site Buying Show with our client’s best vendors. Customers have access to show-only deals, networking time with other fencing contractors and company executives. There are training sessions, interactive social functions and world-class entertainment. The results not only have showed increased revenue since the program started 10 years ago (including year over year sales growth), but also increased engagement from customers who want to attend each year. In fact, this client’s million dollar customers grew from 12% to 25% of their attendees. Those are some great metrics for measurement!
Overall, having the proper rules in place not only creates incredible benefits for the current program but far into the future too.
- Minimize risk of going over budget
- Drive desired behavior changes
- Create a predictable return on investment
- Build goodwill within the channel
For more examples of how successful rules influences actual programs, please visit our Case Studies page on MotivationExcellence.com. We are here to help you create a meaningful, robust and successful program! Please reach out if you have any questions: ME@MotivationExcellence.com.
Showing and Gaining Respect, A Blog in Less than 450 Words
It’s all about the golden rule, isn’t it? Treat others the way you’d like to be treated. That is the bottom line regarding respect. Of course, there are other important ways you can show respect to others and lucky for you, we’re going to outline some of them right here! The best part is, when you show others respect in simple ways (Inc.com will give you 99 of them), you gain it right back!
And because we respect your time, this is going to be a rather short blog. If you take the time to read it and the links embedded, you’ll be well on your way to showing and earning reverence right away!
After doing research, I’ve developed my own acronym of sorts to help me remember to be on my best behavior at work and in life. We all need reminders!
Respond kindly
Exercise active listening
Support others
Praise appropriately
Encourage discussion and different opinions
Communicate politely with your voice and body language
Treat others how you’d like to be treated
Go ahead, and come up with your own meaning for each letter of RESPECT. It’s a great way to flex those mental and empathy muscles!
Respect is a critical aspect to positive company culture. Even when you can’t quite put your finger on it, you know when you feel disrespected. That feeling does not often motivate anyone to do anything but respond in kind, which exacerbates the situation. According to The Balance Careers, showing respect, and in turn receiving it, increases productivity and encourages teamwork. Focusing on this from time to time is a great exercise for all companies large and small.
From making eye contact to using respectful body language, we all possess the ability to practice showing deference, esteem or polite indifference. In fact, when you take the time to purposefully initiate and exercise respectful behaviors you might be surprised at how much you enjoy the results. PersonalDevelopFit.com dives into great ways to do this. The next time you are going into a meeting with one or multiple people resolve to be an active listener, leave your phone alone and contribute positively to the conversation.
As a final thought, don’t underestimate the power of gratitude and appreciation when it comes to showing this topic. A well-placed and meaningful “Thank You” will endear you to the recipient and pave the way for a respectful relationship going forward.
As promised, this is a short one. Now go off and exercise respectful interactions. The world will instantly be a better place!
Measure, Track, Adjust, Measure, Repeat…Why Metrics Matter to Your Success!
Guru is a Sanskrit term for mentor, guide, expert, or master of a certain field of knowledge. There are gurus for everything, including business metrics for measuring success. His name was Peter Drucker and he is widely acknowledged as the inventor of modern business management. One of his most famous quotes is:
“If you can’t measure it, you can’t improve it.”
– Peter Drucker
At Motivation Excellence, we have our own guru of measurement. His name is Bob Graham and he’s the Vice President of Client and Technology Solutions, but honestly, when we introduce him we say he’s the “king of data” or our “rules aficionado.” At any rate, you can tell, we respect his expertise in this area. As our “passionate advocate” for this blog, Graham says establishing and measuring critical data points is essential to the success of incentive, employee, and loyalty programs.
“Metrics allow our clients to know if they used their budget, internal resources and relationships in the channel effectively. That doesn’t always mean financial metrics. Without metrics, you don’t know if you were successful in moving the business forward or achieving the intended goals.”
Start at the Beginning
Understanding your starting point is the springboard to moving forward. If you don’t know where the starting line is, how can you know when you’ve crossed the finish line? This is important not only to a myriad of business applications but personal ones too. Whether you want to increase sales, improve partnerships, lose weight or run faster, knowing where you are now and where you want to be eventually is the first step toward making informed decisions that can lead to success.
For our clients, Graham states it’s never a one-size-fits-all solution.
“Since each company’s goals are different and the way they operate is different (even in the same vertical) we need to start fresh with each client. Identifying the goals, understanding the data and performance needed to achieve those goals are the starting points to build the measurements.”
Graham continues that understanding what will motivate participants to reach the goals is another important factor to consider. Another factor? Avoid setting unrealistic goals.
“Setting mutually beneficial expectations through the program rules that achieve the goals and provide a meaningful reward for the participant through the program structure, award selections and communications is the balance that creates the optimum results.”
Focus on What’s Most Important
When used well, tracking metrics can be very motivating, even for those struggling or those already excelling. Setting up short, medium, and long-term goals gives you metrics to track and adjust at each level. Don’t get overwhelmed tracking EVERYTHING. Focus on the most important objectives and pinpoint the metric that gives you the most information.
As with most personal and professional development skills, there are many tips on how to become better at selecting and measuring metrics for success. Whether you’re a CEO trying to break into the top tier of your vertical, or a weekend warrior training to compete in a triathlon, finding your critical metrics will put you on the right path from the beginning.
Repeat Your Success
There’s a saying in the carpentry world, “measure twice, cut once.” In the business world, when it comes to metrics for success a better saying might be, “measure often, adjust as needed, and build your success more than once.”
For us at Motivation Excellence, when our clients succeed, we all feel a sense of accomplishment, which feeds our desire to repeat it over and over. That’s a metric of not only customer satisfaction but also employee fulfillment. Remember, Graham says not all metrics are tied directly to financial numbers.
“Success is when our teams are successful at exceeding our clients’ and participants’ expectations and building great programs that achieve our clients’ goals. Equally as important, each team member needs to enjoy their time at work and feel they are contributing.”
When you look at satisfaction, fulfillment, lasting relationships, and retention (of both customers and employees), you will see the higher the metrics rise the more successful a company is from the bottom line up! For someone trying to achieve personal goals, you’ll notice each metric hit creates momentum toward the next measurement. The trick is finding the correct metrics to measure, selecting realistic goals, and following through with consistent tracking. What is your plan for measuring success?
The PDQ Guide to EQ Versus IQ; Why EQ is a Better Predictor for Job Success
May is mental health awareness month. It’s also a time we celebrate moms, often our emotional support advocate. Finally, for students and teachers it’s the end of the year, which usually brings on extra stress. This is the perfect month to talk about EQ!
What is EQ?
We know that IQ stands for Intelligence Quotient. Have you heard of EQ? It’s your Emotional Intelligence. VeryWellMind.com likens it to book smarts versus street smarts.
IQ looks at:
- cognitive abilities
- memory
- reasoning
- visual and spatial processing
- general knowledge of the world
EQ looks at:
- identifying emotions and motivations
- perceiving how others feel
- self-regulation and awareness
- empathy
- communication skills
Both have significant roles in our lives, and there’s a lot of discussion about which one is actually a better predictor of success. Having a high IQ certainly sets you up to a certain level, but EQ proponents will argue that a high emotional intelligence score puts you ahead of the pack when it comes to leadership and rising the ranks.
World Economic Forum recently reported very interesting statistics regarding EQ. RallyBright.com echoed the findings. It’s a top skill to have for career success.
- Those with high EQ are 127 times more productive than those with low EQ
- EQ is responsible for 57% of job performance
- When compared to someone with similar IQ and technical skills, EQ accounts for 90% of why someone gets promoted
Why EQ is Important
Now that we’ve established what EQ is, let’s look at how it can create a better trajectory for your career (or life in general, really). Psychologist and author, Daniel Goleman, is a thought leader on EQ. He details the five characteristics of high EQ and how they equate to better leaders. You can hear him talk in depth on this topic in a March Sounds True podcast.
TalentSmart, an EQ training company, found that EQ also equates to a higher salary. According to their research, people with a high degree of emotional intelligence make an average of $29,000 more per year than those with a low degree of EQ. In fact, they report that every point increase in EQ equals a bump of $1,300 to an annual salary.
Maya Angelou is quoted as saying, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” This is what emotional intelligence is all about. If you leave someone feeling good about themselves, their project or just life in general, they’ll remember that sense of good will and appreciate interactions with you.
Think about it. Whom would you rather work for: a negative, insulting, know-it-all, or a kind, inquisitive and compassionate person? As a leader, do you know the names of your employees’ kids? Are you empathetic to struggles at work and at home? Do you understand what motivates each team members’ best performance? If you answered no to any of those questions, it’s time to work on improving your EQ score!
Boosting Your EQ
While your IQ score might not change much over time (although you can always be a lifelong learner), you have the power to increase your EQ through practice and mindful decisions. Start with taking an EQ quiz or two to gauge your starting point.
The Institute for Health and Human Potential has a very quick (less than two minutes) quiz to get you started. Psychology Today has a much longer version (45 minutes) if you really want to continue this journey.
There are also a variety of tips to increase your EQ score over time. Inc.com shares ten strategies to enhance your EQ no matter your starting score. They include:
- Communicate assertively (not aggressively, or passively)
- Respond rather than react
- Be an active listener
- Learn self-awareness
- Be sociable and approachable
Research shows companies who hire employees with high EQ see major increases in total sales and productivity. In addition, 90% of top performers earn high EQ marks. This so-called “soft skill” has the ability to bring in hard results while improving company cultures. If you want to find yourself at the top of your career path, EQ will be one of the best skills to develop!
Building Business through Relationships – a White Paper from Motivation Excellence
Name an industry the pandemic hasn’t affected for better or worse? Stumped? Practically every aspect of our lives has seen upheaval and the building industry has certainly not been immune. In fact, with increased demand for home renovations, fluctuations in commercial projects and supply chain interruptions, this industry is riding quite the swells.
This is a vertical close to our hearts at Motivation Excellence. We have enjoyed working with clients in flooring, electrical, fencing and construction product manufacturing to name a few. Because of their delivery chain, we’ve worked with them to improve relationships with their own sales teams, their distributors and their sales teams, and the final customers.
Below we review, at a high level, three case studies to give you a summary of how our solutions helped increase sales, build relationships and grow loyalty for our clients. While these are specific to the building industry, many other verticals can benefit from well-planned incentive programs.
Case Study 1: Electrical
Goals –
- Increased brand recognition
- Significant sales growth
- Vendor buy-in to help fund the program
Solution –
- Segmentation of their 100,000+ customer base to capture the top and middle performers
- Incremental sales goals were assigned to the top 20%
- Tiered award offerings to motivate each customer level (including two group travel levels and award point earnings for smaller customers)
- Projected sales growth helped secure vendor buy-in
Results –

- This program continued for more than 20 years, resulting in sustained growth with participating customers year over year
- Enrolled participants outperformed the market trends in a down, up and even market (see graph)
- ROI was more than 200%
- Market share increase achieved
- Vendor contributions significantly paid for program costs, and they realized increased growth as well.
Case Study 2: Flooring
Goals –
- Motivate commercial flooring contractors to buy more from them
- Create a self-funding program
Solution –
- Dove into four years of company sales history as well as industry data
- Increased audience size by 3.5 times to meet client’s aggressive growth and self-funding goals
- Targeted communications to keep inspiring middle performers to reach higher
- Created award options to motivate both the highest and middle performers, including travel and award points earnings
Results –
- 627% ROI: program profit contributions nearly doubled the expected, and the program was completely self-funded
- Equity among participants was built through data analysis, setting reasonable goals and offering desirable rewards
- Engagement among the participants build stronger relationships
Case Study 3: Fencing
Goals –
- Increase revenue from fencing contractors in the United States and Canada
- Build stronger relationships with the largest customers
- Be a source of education for customers on growing their businesses
- Engage internal sales associates, help them create bonds with customers
Solution –
- Built a travel incentive program rewarding the top customers and their guests
- Targeted gift mailings to contractors on track to meeting qualification for travel
- Created an exclusive Buying Show featuring best vendors with show-only deals during the incentive experience
- Included sales associates on engagement campaign emails to keep their excitement high
Results –
- Revenue growth for each qualification period
- Million Dollar Customers grew from 12% to 25% of the incentive winners
- Greater customer knowledge and relationships
- 71% of enrolled customers qualify to attend the incentive event
- Many repeat winners vowing to return for each program
These are just a few examples of Motivation Excellence solutions that can help drive results for increasing revenue, loyalty and stronger relationships. A successful incentive program starts with a lot of research up front, a growth-based rule structure and plenty of metrics to measure achievement. It takes a close partnership with our clients to create the best plan for success. Once that’s all in place we can launch a program within four weeks.
If you’d like to see our case studies, please visit the Newsroom tab on our website. You can also watch our “Building Business through Relationships” webinar from April 2021 on our website. It contains a more in-depth conversation about all three of the above programs. In addition, you can hear directly from our fencing client contact about his company’s Buying Show experience.
Get to Know ME with George Dorian
George Dorian is a long-timer at Motivation Excellence! He’s a fixture in our IT department, helping our clients and internal team develop useful websites and data processing procedures. Read more below to find out his history with the horror industry, why he feels so connected to his co-workers and wisdom on flexibility of thought. Thanks George for sharing!
What’s your title and how long have you been at Motivation Excellence?
Business Applications Developer/Database Analyst and I’ve been here on and off for 21 years.
What does your job entail?
Building technology solutions for all kinds of enterprise needs, mostly program administration; usually translates into creating some logical model, and then building infrastructure/coding, and testing/deploying a deliverable.
What’s something special about working at Motivation Excellence that you’d like to share?
Co-workers are always buying my daughter gifts – this goes directly to my heart and immediately builds a very strong bond between us.
What’s your favorite part of your job at Motivation Excellence?
The problem solving and the people I work with.
What’s an unknown or odd talent you have?
People have always shared very personal problems with me and asked for advice, since I was a child.
What motivates you to accomplish things in your life (work or personal)?
Inner drive, a sense of duty –part of my identity.
What do you enjoy doing outside work?
Spending time with my family. Learning new things. Music. Reading. Art. Bookstores. Libraries. Museums. Movies. Concerts (remember when?).
One thing that always makes you laugh is?
Mice Elf.
What have you done that helped you get through the pandemic?
Work out a lot more, more art projects – day trips to local prehistoric sites are probably the best new hobby to come out of it.
What is the most unusual job you’ve ever had?
I briefly worked retail and horror convention security.
This month, our theme for social media is mental flexibility. How do you relate to this theme? Any tips on how you try to be flexible in thought?
I would fail at my job if my mind was rigid, never mind how boring life would be – and boring can be worse than bad.
Flexibility of mind comes from habits, and must be exercised, just like your body’s flexibility, and it’s heavily woven into your personal development and growth. You have to practice opening your mind, it doesn’t happen naturally – just like being fit.
Alice laughed. “There’s no use trying,” she said: “one can’t believe impossible things.”
“I daresay you haven’t had much practice,” said the Queen. “When I was your age, I always did it for half-an-hour a day. Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.”
-Lewis Carroll
Practice every morning – try and think of six impossible things – for your own amusement. Challenge yourself, continually question everything, including the question itself, and your preconceptions. Surround yourself with people who will creatively challenge you. Listen. Discuss. Read (or get an audiobook or Blinkist – no excuses anymore). Every book is at least one person’s wisdom, mine it for the gems that impact you and help you grow. Try and view everything as a learning opportunity. What did I learn from seeing that movie? That video? No one knows everything. Going from imagination to reality is sometimes difficult, but you can’t go the other way. Start from a cosmic view, and then whittle away the constraints of your time and your place.
Until she invents a Time Machine, then start all over again. 😉
Can Your Brain Do the Splits? If Not, We’re Here to Help You Increase Your Flexible Thinking!
We all know nurturing flexibility is great for our bodies: it reduces injuries, improves posture and increases mobility. There are multitudes of exercise programs that focus on improving body flexibility as part of overall health and wellness. Maybe you practice yoga or make sure you stretch your legs and back well before and after a run? How often do you stretch your mind though?
According to Dr. Daniel Amen, just like there are maladies associated with being physically stiff, there are mental problems associated with inflexible thinking. Anxiety and OCD are two disorders linked to people unable to change their thought patterns. Road rage is also a symptom of inflexible tendencies! And, we all know at least one person in our life who is all about saying no rather than trying to go with the flow.
In our last 16 months of blogs, having the ability to adapt was positively linked to at least seven of our personal and professional development topics:
If any of the above are important to you, keep reading to learn more about how you can increase your ability to change without too much resistance coming from inside your own head.
Flexibility = Ability x Agility
Pre-pandemic your brain flexibility skills were surely tested here and there, but now that you’re living through it, you might feel like you’ve been tested, tried, twisted through a wringer and hung out to dry by a toenail or two…on a daily basis! The more flexible your mindset, however, the better off you’re likely surviving our current situation.
Best-selling author Leonard Mlodinow says “elastic thinking” is where our ideas come from. The hurdles pop up when our ideas compete with the parts of the brain that want to censor them. Having good cognitive flexibility allows you to jump those hurdles with greater ease (and without pulling a hamstring).
Indeed posted an article about the importance of thought flexibility when it comes to your career. Mentally flexible people tend to be less stressed, overwhelmed and stifled at their jobs.
There is a lot published about teaching flexible thinking to children. Kids who can adapt faster are less likely to throw tantrums and succumb to anxiety. If it’s good for kids, it’s even better for adults!
Stretching Your Mind
Just like learning to do the splits, there are tips and tricks to training your mind to be more flexible. Below is a list compiled from the links in this blog. Use them all or hone in on one or two and see what kind of progress you make over a month.
- Accept that change is inevitable – if you expect things to change, you’ve already taken the first step in making your brain think of alternative scenarios. Better yet, you’re already thinking about how to navigate potential new paths to your goal.
- Develop a plan B (and C, even D) – Scouts are always prepared because they are taught to have more than one backup plan. If a bear eats their dinner, they have a fishing pole at the ready. If you think ahead and can foresee the possibility of change, push yourself even further into the future and develop alternative solutions.
- Be hopeful – there is definitely a relationship between positivity and a flexible mindset. As we live through this pandemic it’s easy to fall into a negative thought pattern: everything is canceled, when will I ever feel safe again, I miss everyone. Twist your negative thoughts into positive ones: it’s nice to not be over-scheduled, as soon as I can I can’t wait to “fill in the blank,” once we’re vaccinated I’m planning to see my family again.
- Find space – even if it means closing your eyes and expanding your mind’s eye into the darkness, when you explore large areas your mind naturally opens up. Sitting on a dock overlooking a lake, enjoying the open space of a large park or driving on an open road (with the top down too) can alleviate feelings of constriction and allow you to physically and mentally relax and stretch.
- Exercise – endorphins are famous for making us feel better. When you find yourself stuck on a problem or a negative thought pattern, take an activity break. It’s not only great for your physical body, it helps your brain break focus and wander in other directions.
- Breathe – when you’re tempted to instantly say no to something, take a deep breath and count to five (or maybe ten). This helps redirect knee-jerk reactions and gives you time to take your thoughts down a couple different paths before landing on your answer.
- Eat better – people with less flexible thinking tendencies may be low on serotonin. Eating foods like chickpeas, nut butter, green peas, turkey, sweet potatoes and eggs boost serotonin. You’re fueling your brain, just as if you’d fuel your body for a race.
- Play critical thinking games – grab some friends and head to that new escape room. Download a game app that challenges how you solve puzzles. Anytime we push ourselves to resolve a problem in an “out of the box” way, we’re helping our brain stretch and grow!
Being cognitively flexible sets you up for not just surviving, but thriving through the inevitable changes thrown at you! Quite honestly, practicing it is probably much easier for most people than trying to do the splits. You’ve got the understanding and some tips to get you going. The next time you feel entrenched in the “well, that’s the way it has always been done” mentality, let your brain show your legs what flexibility is all about!